So they were right…
You know how when people give you advice and you just think they are crazy or wrong. Then you find out they were actually on to something. I usually appreciate them more, but still find myself sometimes doubting them the next time they give advice or share wisdom. Why is that? Silly me.
We had split responses from friends and family as to whether it would be alot harder with two. Half said it really isn’t that much more work and the other half were like good luck. So far I belive them both. In some ways it is SOOOO much harder with two and in others it is no big deal at all. And like most things I have discovered about having kids, if you wait long enough it will change.
Week one at home with both kids left me in tears most days wondering what I had done. Liam’s personality is so loving and affectionate and it shows with his sister. He adores her and loves to kiss and be part of taking care of her. He just gave me a run for my money that first week. I was greatful for all the distractions that came our way.
Week two at home with both has been totally awesome. Liam’s loving and caring personality was again shown to his mother and father this week. I think it helped that Charlie got off work at a reasonable hour most nights this week so he got lots of Daddy time which makes such a world of difference. But also, I think we just got some of our stuff worked out.
I was terrified to go to the store with two kids. I have now been to Walmart twice (and to the Pharmacy! which we all know takes forever), Costco, and one other retail store that I cannot share yet because we went for Charlie’s Anniversary gift and he has not yet recieved it, and they were all successfull! Just like the first baby it just takes a different kind of planning and most importantly flexability and the knowledge that it probably WILL go wrong. Then when it does it is no big deal.
My feelings about having a girl are so different than when I had Liam. I was protective of him but in a very different way. I am not sure if it is because she is a girl or just because I know this is my last one. I am a nervous protective of her and unashamed to tell strangers to bug off. I think with Liam I was still so unsure about motherhood that I felt like I was out of place with it at times.
Overall, I am having a blast with the second and with the both. I can’t say it makes me want more, but I can say that it makes me feel like we are a complete family and that I am glad we have two. I am just worried that I may become a minivan mom at some point because my little car has never felt more “little” with all their stuff and mine. Speaking of growing out of things…Little Miss has already outgrown all of her newborn outfits. They really do mean up to 8 lbs.. Good thing she got spoiled by all her friends and family and has plenty of other outfits for the coming months. Sigh.
March 3rd, 2010 at 10:39 pm
Congratulations, Nicole! Somehow I missed your post about the new baby; my fb is out of control with too many postings about others and their games. I thought two was really hard but my first two were only 20 mos apart. Three is a breeze because the two older ones entertain each other and take care of each other. Three can be hard when all three go wah! Good luck, and try, try, try to rest. Congrats again!
March 19th, 2010 at 10:23 pm
Charlie, I love this picture. I remember when you were this little, yes, you actually were this little and cute at one time, and I have many pictures to prove it!
Aunt Vicki